Nin chatted all evening with Pole, who was "stunningly handsome, with the finely chiseled facial features and slim, muscular body found more frequently on Greek statuary than human beings," wrote Deirdre Bair, another Nin biographer. Not only did Nin find him physically irresistible but she was impressed by his emotional sensitivity and knowledge of Eastern philosophies. The night she met him, Nin, who was 44 to his 28, wrote in her diary: "Danger! He is probably homosexual."
She accompanied Pole to Los Angeles, where he enrolled at UCLA to study forestry. After a year, he transferred to UC Berkeley and lived with Nin in a San Francisco apartment. Upon graduation, he joined the forest service and was assigned to a station in the San Gabriel Mountains. In contrast to her pampered life in New York, Nin lived with Pole in a cabin in Sierra Madre, where she scrubbed the floors, baby-sat the neighbors' children and was known as "Mrs. [Anais Nin] Pole," though she and [Rupert] were not yet married.
LOVERS: Pole and Nin met in an elevator of a swanky Manhattan apartment building in 1947. He was 28, she was 44.; LOVERS: Pole and Nin met in an elevator of a swanky Manhattan apartment building in 1947. He was 28, she was 44.; PHOTOGRAPHER: Family archive of [Eric Lloyd Wright]; LOVE NEST: Anais Nin and Rupert Pole shared a Silver Lake home designed by Eric Lloyd Wright.; PHOTOGRAPHER: Christian DuBois Larson