Because administrators would not allow him to go into either the boys' or girls' bathrooms at Bay Shore High School in Bay Shore, N.Y., out of fear he would be bullied, Cassata had to use a bathroom in the nurse's station, he said. Many of the parents of transgender people face much steeper challenges than the parents of gays or lesbians in the coming-out process, Abby Maisonave, president of the Jersey Shore chapter of PFLAG, told more than 80 students, staff and teachers gathered Tuesday at OCC's Arts and Community Center.